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Summer Break Part TWO: Brazil – ilha grande & Rio

Family time was great and all, but I have been craving some tropical beach time.

Chile’s beaches are gorgeous to look at. However, the water is COLD, unpredictable protests make the drive to the shore a little daunting, and every dang resident of Santiago escapes to the coast at this time of year.

I needed a beach with very few other humans, more nature than civilization, sand free of cigarette butts, and water warm enough to soothe my soul (but cool enough to provide respite from the summer heat). Tony and I found the perfect spot: Paraiso Azul Retiro on Brazil’s Ilha Grande (Big Island), just off the coast of Rio de Janeiro.

Waiting for our boat in Angra dos Reis, a port town west of Rio.
Leaving the mainland! Tony and I had the little boat all to ourselves.

Ilha Grande housed a leper colony and later a high-security prison, which closed in 1994. Few motorized vehicles are permitted on the island, and about 87 percent is contained in environment protection areas. Last year, the island was named a UNESCO World Heritage Site.

Our cottage sat at the water’s edge with a hammock perfect for napping to the sound of lapping waves. The guest house’s private beach was small, but then, so was the guest house. For most of our visit, we shared the beach with only a couple other guests.

Our home away from home: Paraiso Azul Retiro
Evening view of the beach and yoga sala.
Our balcony

Tony and I got up each morning and practiced yoga in the beautiful high-ceilinged sala overlooking the water. We spent much of the day reading, napping, and swimming in our calm bay, on the opposite side of the island from the choppy Atlantic Ocean.

the yoga sala

Our first full day here, we kayaked to two nearby beaches. Unfortunately, they were located very close to the Lagoa Azul (Blue Lagoon), which is a big tourist attraction. Boats motored in and dropped off drunk tourists, who paraded down the beach with their plastic cups of beer, posed for selfies, and thrashed around in the surf, losing flip flops to the tide. Swimming in those waters, I collected plastic bags, labels from water bottles, heaps of plastic bottle caps, and other detritus. I dumped it all in a makeshift trash bin, but I don’t know if anyone ever comes to haul it away. We made a beeline for our clean little tourist-free patch of tranquility.

The most conservative swimsuit in Brazil, fyi.
Gorgeous, despite the plastic trash. Sigh… This was early, before the tourists arrived.
Dang, I love “portrait mode” on my phone. So forgiving…
We explored the trail near the beach.
It was nice while it lasted, but soon boatloads of tourists arrived. Why can’t we have the whole island to ourselves?!
I hope someone collects this trash occasionally. The plastic in the water was truly disheartening. I beseech you, reader, to consider giving up single-use plastic bags and bottles! Pleeeeeease?!

After a day of absolutely spectacular weather, we had an evening with absolutely spectacular storms.

The storms knocked out power for a while, so we played cards and ate dinner by candlelight.

Our second day, we decided to go for a hike. On the map, you can see our guest house (labeled in purple). The red line marks trails around the island, but what you can’t see is how rugged those trails are. From the coast, the rainforest justs up to an elevation of 3,383 feet (1,031 maters), so to hike here means to go up, up, up, and then down, down, down repeatedly. Tree roots created makeshift steps and fallen leaves offered a little traction, while slippery mossy rocks did their best to keep our minds focused on the muddy path.

Our private guide, named Lua, bounded up the steps behind the guest house to the trail. About 10 years old, Lua looked like a mix between black lab and some kind of terrier. She patiently led us toward Bananal Beach, occasionally pausing to wait as we panted up the steep path.

Leaving our guest house.
Look at the size of this jackfruit! FYI, when jackfruit falls and rots on the forest floor, the smell is disgustingly sickly sweet.
The elusive forest stud.

Pouring with sweat, we emerged from the forest to find a gorgeous deserted beach. The only other person was a gardener tending to some bushes near a small house. Lua hunkered down in the shade while Tony and I waded into the calm, clear water. We swam, played in the multi-colored sand, walked the length of the beach, threw a stick for Lua, and ate our sack lunch.

Bananal Beach
Paradise.
Lua takes a break.
We walked to those boulders, where we picked up the next trail.

Eventually, we followed our dog guide to a different trail that led to the next beach, Matariz. We were pretty wrecked by then and not overly impressed with the beach, so we stopped for a soda at a small guesthouse (while Lua frolicked in and drank from a stream) and then headed home.

The “trail.”
How spoiled are we that we were unimpressed with this beach? Seriously, sometimes I worry about that.

From then on, Lua became my BFF. She followed me from the guesthouse lounge to our cottage to the beach several times a day. She curled up next to our table at meals. She napped on our cottage porch when we were inside. She burrowed under my beach chair. I kinda fell in love with her.

I should point out that this is the “before” picture. Before sea and sand ripped off my toenail polish, before mosquitos ravaged my calves leaving wicked puss-y wounds, before sunburn peeled off in sheets like a clove of garlic, and before I fell and skinned my knee. Don’t believe everything you see on Facebook.

On day three, we followed Lua through the rainforest on a different trail. This time we walked to Freguesia de Santana Beach and beyond. We paused at the deserted beach for a swim in the still clear water, undeterred by the light rain.

Check out that enormous stand of bamboo! Seriously, WTW? Who brought that to Brazil???
Gorgeous roots … reminds me of the book Overstory, the best of the NINE books I read on this break. Please read it! Soooo fascinating.
Freguesia de Santana, built in 1843.
Sooo tranquilo. We went for a swim and then continued our hike. On the way back, this place was mobbed by tourists disembarking from their party boats. What a nightmare! Ugh.

Afterwards, Lua led the way to another trail that should have taken us to a beach called Japariz, where we had planned to have lunch at a restaurant. We walked for nearly an hour, sometimes climbing over boulders or wading through shallow streams. Eventually, we gave up and turned back. Later, we realized we had stopped just minutes from our destination!

Another day, we left Lua at the guesthouse and took a speedboat to several locations on the island.

We were eager to check out one of the island’s most famous beaches, Lopez Mendez, but we hadn’t realized we had to hike to it. We got dropped off at the small beach, Pouso, and trekked through the rainforest for about 30 minutes. Fortunately, we got an early start, so we had the whole beach practically to ourselves.

Lopez Mendez Beach. Insanely fabulous.
Hottie in his Van Halen shorts. Runnin’ with the devil.

In today’s money-driven tourism world, it’s rare to find an undeveloped beach with no condos, no restaurants, no souvenir shops. So refreshing! (Of course, that also meant there were no lounge chairs or umbrellas for rent … but we found a nice log under a shady tree.)

I took a long walk along the beach while Tony watched our stuff, and we took turns jumping in the powerful waves of the Atlantic Ocean. By the time we left a couple hours later, people were beginning to pour down from the trail.

So many of these guys on the beach, but only he would pose for me. Thank you, wee crab.

We hiked back to meet our boat driver for the ride to Abraão, the island’s only town. I appreciated that Ilha Grande’s touristy stuff was concentrated in one area. Hostels, shops, restaurants, bars, and tour agencies all competed for the tourists who were dumped at the pier. There wasn’t much to see, so we ate lunch and hung out at a waterside bar for some people-watching until our scheduled departure.

Our butt-breaking speedboat.
The bustling metropolis of Abraão.

Next stop: Another hike, this time to a waterfall. We got dropped at a small beach and took off up the trail. And up. And up. And up. Finally, we reached the Cachoeira da Feiticeira. It was pretty, but mostly, I was excited to plunge my stinky, sweaty, muddy body into that cool pool. It did not disappoint. There was only one other woman there, and she was busy Instagramming herself on top of a boulder, so I had the pool all to myself. Tony sat on the edge and dipped his feet in the water. I could’ve stayed longer, but we had a long hike back to our boat, and we were on a schedule.

It wasn’t that dramatic, but whatever. A waterfall is always impressive.
Like a shampoo commercial, no?
You probably can’t fully comprehend how freakin’ high up we had hiked. But there’s the sea, WAY the hell down there.

The last stop of the day was Lagoa Azul, or Blue Lagoon, which was very near our guesthouse. We jumped off the back of the boat and swam a bit, but we couldn’t get near the reef because of all the frolicking tourists, who stood in waist-deep water, drinking beer and scaring away all the fish. Back “home,” we rested up from a long day of exploring.

I’m all alone … I’m all alone … I’m all alone…
Seriously?

We had worried that nine days at a secluded beach would be too long, but I had an epiphany on this vacation. I CAN actually take a trip that involves a lot of nothing. Usually, I insist on visiting every museum, touring every historical site, hitting every one of the guidebook’s “top 10 don’t-miss attractions.” However, this holiday taught me that travel doesn’t have to mean frenzy.

The “after” photo. I realize you can’t fully understand the torture this leg has endured. Just trust me.

In nine days of doing very little, I never got bored. We slowed down and enjoyed each moment. We even embraced the storms, which filled the afternoon sky with spectacular lightning displays, even though they also knocked out power to our guesthouse a few times.

That said, when it was time to leave, we were ready to get back to civilization. We gave Lua a little cuddle, thanked the incredible staff, and boarded a boat back to the mainland.

Goodbye!

Our driver, Piu Piu, met us at the pier and drove us to the Rio de Janeiro airport, where I kissed Tony good-bye and sent him back to Chile. I was spending the weekend in Rio!

I joined Stella, Ian, and Becky at the Copacabana Beach shortly after checking in to our hotel. They had already rented chairs and umbrellas. Once nestled into my chair, there was no reason to leave.

Thirsty? Someone would bring a beer, caipirinha, soda, fresh water, or a coconut with a hole hacked in the top for access to the cold refreshing juice. Hungry? Just needed to wave at the guy with the portable grill for a cheese kebab, or signal the vendor selling peel-and-eat shrimp, or cool off with a traditional açai bowl full of slushy fruit, or consider a burger, fried calamari, sandwiches, steamed corn, popsicles – seriously, there was no end to the food selection. Forgot a swimsuit? Fortunately, vendors stroll the beach with huge racks of bikinis. Sellers walked by with jewelry, sarongs, sunscreen, T-shirts, sunglasses, souvenirs, dresses, hats, and more.

This guy even hosed off our feet at one point!

The ocean water was chilly with powerful crashing waves, but I knew I couldn’t leave without going in at least once. I fought the breakers until I got far enough out to bob in the waves. It was dreamy. Really cold, but dreamy.

That evening, we went to a samba bar called Leviano in the popular nightlife district of Lapa. The bar was packed before 9 p.m., and the energy was electric.

Later, we returned to the beach, where small bars lined the promenade. Most had live music, so we picked one and hung out for a while, kicking off our shoes to dance in the sand.

We spent the next morning at the beach again, and then Becky and I took off to visit the famous Christ the Redeemer statue.

According to the trusty Encyclopedia Brittanica:

Christ the Redeemer, Portuguese Cristo Redentor, colossal statue of Jesus Christ at the summit of Mount CorcovadoRio de Janeiro, southeastern Brazil. It was completed in 1931 and stands 98 feet (30 metres) tall, its horizontally outstretched arms spanning 92 feet (28 metres). The statue, made of reinforced concrete clad in a mosaic of thousands of triangular soapstone tiles, sits on a square stone pedestal base about 26 feet (8 metres) high, which itself is situated on a deck atop the mountain’s summit. The statue is the largest Art Deco-style sculpture in the world and is one of Rio de Janeiro’s most recognizable landmarks.

A historic train carried tourists up the mountain through the forest. At the top, we walked up several flights of stairs and elbowed through the crowd for a few photos. The selfie-fest was hilarious. If you can’t beat ’em, join ’em.

Despite the crowd, it wasn’t hard to find a quiet spot to enjoy the views.

That evening, we reconnected with Stella and Ian to celebrate Becky’s birthday at a Japanese restaurant called Soy. Accustomed to Chile’s ubiquitous rolls full of rice and cream cheese, we were all thrilled with the delicious “real” sushi. Our waiter brought chocolate mousse with a candle, and we sang “Happy Birthday.”

A little more music at the beach, and we called it a night. (Can I just mention how much I LOVE that the fun gets going in Rio well before my bed time!!)

Stella and Ian flew out the next morning. Becky and I had an afternoon flight, so we tried to spend a couple hours at the beach. However, strong winds kept uprooting our umbrellas and blasting them through the air, nearly decapitating several sunbathers. The locals promised it would calm down, but we had to pack up and hit the road anyway.

Well, Brazil, you stole my heart. I’ll be back!

Summer Break Part one: Florida

School wrapped up the first semester on Dec. 20, and we immediately flew to the States to spend Christmas with my family. I had scheduled three weeks in Florida because I assumed my mother would need help. In the week after my father died, I felt so useful: organizing her paperwork, answering phone calls, contacting friends and family with the sad news, and so on. I figured I would pick up where I had left off a month ago. We crossed paths with our pet sitters at the Santiago Airport, handed over the keys and a few bits of information about caring for Ella, and then we were off.

Kaylene and Ned at the Santiago Airport

As always, I had a blast hanging out with my sisters and their families. Megan had decked out her home near Destin, FL, in full holiday regalia, including three Christmas trees. Kate and her family drove from Michigan with a van full of presents. My brother Mike and his family sat this one out, celebrating with out-of-town friends at their home in Abu Dhabi. My mom arrived on Christmas Eve. Of course, we had many melancholy moments, missing my dad. His absence was everywhere. With a bunch of little kids at Christmas, though, you have to keep a happy face. Kind of a blessing.

Megan and Britt had the most festive house in the neighborhood.

We all went to the movies. Some of us saw “Star Wars”; some saw “Frozen 2.” Posing outside the theater…

Not sure what happened here…
The night before Christmas …
We caught Santa setting up the Magnatiles!

I was a little bummed that Tony and I had failed to gear up in anticipation of the annual Dickinson Family Nerf War. I couldn’t find any weapons from past years, and I didn’t want to invest in more plastic junk. I begged my sister Kate to let us borrow some of her artillery. Her three boys easily own enough Nerf weaponry to outfit the actual U.S. Army. “We totally forgot to bring it,” she said. “We were in such a rush to pack the van and get down here!”

Turns out Megan also dropped the ball. She had purchased Nerf guns with incompatible bullets. Doh!

Christmas morning, we enjoyed the usual traditions: Kids wait upstairs until adults check to see whether Santa came. Play with stocking stuffers and eat cinnamon rolls. Open presents. On our “journey to zero waste,” Tony and I had requested no gifts this year. I tried to find plastic-free options for our presents to everyone else. I made lotion bars and bought homemade soaps for the adults, and I gave the kids photo puzzles made on the Shutterfly website.

At one point, the living room became eerily quiet. Suddenly, Kate’s whole family came barreling down the stairs in full attack mode, outfitted with helmets, face masks, cardboard shields, and Nerf weapons. I shouted out, “Embedded journalist! Hold your fire!” and ducked behind the kitchen island. So obviously, Kate had lied about forgetting the Nerf gear. Not only that, Nico had written an extremely detailed three-page battle plan with roles for each member of his family. It opened with:

After everyone is done opening presents, we run upstairs in the closet and get ready. This way, we already have the top floor cleared out as we make our way downstairs in the line going: Nico (shieldman), Dad (sheildman), Paul (gunman), Jack (gunman), and Mom (gunner) makes sure that we are not being ambushed from behind.

There’s even a diagram for clarification.

Classic.

Family Christmas Nerf War 2020
Megan wears protection while baking cinnamon rolls.

The only way to top an epic Nerf war is with a trip to the beach. So that’s what we did. Henderson State Park’s beach is practically perfect with baby powder sand and crystal clear water (too cold for me at this time of year, but the kids jumped right in).

Beach at Henderson State Park.

We had so much fun, we went back the next day.

Tony and I had promised to take the kids overnight, and Megan and Britt were looking forward to a romantic get-away. However, my mom was eager to get home, so Tony and I drove with her back to the Villages a few days earlier than planned.

Our rental property was free for the week, and we settled in, expecting to spend much of our time helping out at mom’s house. Turns out she didn’t really want or need help. Distracting herself from my father’s absence, she launched several big projects, including remodeling the master bedroom and bath. Realizing she and the workmen had things under control, and knowing we would have to check in to a hotel at the end of the week when our renters arrived, we decided to skip town again. Tony took a shuttle to the airport, rented a car, and picked me up to head back to Megan’s house. We figured we could offer to babysit for that get-away they wanted.

During the six-hour drive, I checked my messages using free wifi at a rest stop. Megan had texted, “Sha sha! I hope u get this, we booked our get-away room for tonight so we might leave the kids at the neighbors till u get here so we can spend a little extra time at the resort.” Ha! She didn’t even wait till we got there.

While I appreciate having the whole family together, there’s something particularly special about getting my lovebugs all to myself. No cousins to distract them. No siblings to distract me. We played Pokemon Monopoly and Sequence, assembled Annesley’s puzzle, read bunches of books, colored, ran around outside, and laughed a lot.

One day when Britt was at work, Megan took us all to Seaside, a quaint beach town where the movie “The Truman Show” was filmed. We had brought the kids’ bikes, and we rented some for the adults. We cycled around a lovely lake and through the quiet lanes lined with picturesque cottages.

Cycling in Seaside.

After lunch, we strolled over to the beach, just planning to take a peek. As if. Will and Annesley immediately started playing in the sand and splashing in the water. Seriously, how could they resist?

One highlight of this visit was watching the kids at karate class. The sensei was brilliant. I wish I had his classroom management skills. And I felt super proud of my munchkins.

Before heading back to Santiago, we popped by for one last visit with my mom. She let me take one of my dad’s ukuleles, which was a nice distraction when we got stranded in Atlanta overnight.

Back in Chile, I spent much of my time dealing with time-consuming, Spanish-mandatory frustrations: A large sum of our money was “missing” after an issue with a mobile deposit. We had to get our vacuum repaired. Someone stole the side mirrors off my car while I was at an appointment. Two of our balcony doors were broken and wouldn’t close. In addition, our house in Michigan needs more foundation work before we put in on the market again, so I was on skype with contractors and emailing with my realtor.

Still, we made time for a little fun. We saw the movie, “Yesterday,” at a free screening in the park by our house. I met up with a couple friends. We ate out (way too much!). The rest of the time, I could be found reading or napping on the balcony.

I really couldn’t complain … especially when I could look forward to our upcoming trip to Ilha Grande in Brazil!

“Your family is very stimulating.” – holding tight and letting go

For Thanksgiving, Tony and I enjoyed a traditional dinner in a basement bar. A short walk from our apartment in Santiago, Chile, the Black Rock Pub was packed with gringos gorging on turkey and stuffing (or in my case, a vegetarian plate overloaded with sides). As we shoveled green bean casserole into our mouths, we took turns expressing gratitudes.

It was mostly the usual stuff. We’re grateful for each other, our families, our friends around the world, our new Roomba robot vacuum … but I’m most thankful for something I had actually hoped to avoid for awhile longer: saying good-bye to my dad.

  • I’m thankful that my school released me to spend a week in Florida.
  • I’m thankful that my siblings were all there. Megan drove six hours; Kate flew down from Michigan; and Mike made the long journey from Abu Dhabi. 
  • I’m thankful for the neighbors and friends who distracted my mother and filled the fridge with food.
  • I’m thankful for the wisdom and kindness of the hospice nurses.
  • I’m thankful that his suffering was relatively short-lived.

Really, there was so, so much to be thankful for.

About two years ago, my dad contracted a debilitating cough, but doctors couldn’t find a cause for it. Inexplicable fluid retention bloated his belly and made him miserable. Angry purple bruises appeared after a minor bump into a door frame or a smack of his shin on a table leg. Blood work, CAT scans, MRIs … tests, tests, and more tests. Finally, a bone marrow biopsy resulted in a diagnosis: MDS. None of us had ever heard of it. 

According to the MDS Foundation

Myelodysplastic Syndromes (MDS) are a group of diverse bone marrow disorders in which the bone marrow does not produce enough healthy blood cells. MDS is often referred to as a “bone marrow failure disorder.” … To help you better understand MDS, it might be helpful to first consider some basics about bone marrow and blood. The bone marrow functions as a factory that manufactures three kinds of blood cells: red blood cells, white blood cells, and platelets. Healthy bone marrow produces immature blood cells — called stem cells, progenitor cells, or blasts — that normally develop into mature, fully functional red blood cells, white blood cells, and platelets. In MDS, these stem cells may not mature and may accumulate in the bone marrow or they may have a shortened life span, resulting in fewer than normal mature blood cells in the circulation.

MDS didn’t account for all his nasty symptoms. Doctors identified Epstein-Barr Virus as the culprit. His cough left him breathless and nearly incapacitated at times. During our family gathering over the Christmas holidays in 2017, he passed out, landing facedown on the floor. So scary. 

In October 2018, I took a week off work to spend time with my dad, whose condition was worsening. I sat with him during his daily chemo infusions at the clinic, a weirdly bonding experience. Normally overshadowed by my extrovert mother, chatty children, and gregarious grandkids, my dad opened up during those clinic visits. The first day, he brought a book to read, and I laughed, “Oh no, you don’t get to read! We’re going to talk!”

We fell into a routine. We’d scope out two adjoining recliners, and while the nurse checked his blood pressure, I would grab some apple juice and peanut butter crackers for him from the snack counter. We talked about his childhood and high school exploits in Bellevue, Washington. He shared stories about his parents. We discussed books we’d been reading, both of us fans of historical fiction and thrillers. We even managed to discuss politics and realized we’re both essentially moderates, just on opposite sides of the aisle. We laughed and laughed about crazy family stories, and we reflected on how fortunate we were to see so much of the world. Maybe we gossiped a bit, as well. 

I returned to Chile feeling a deeper connection to my father and wishing I had taken a chemo selfie with him. “There will be other chances, I’m sure,” he texted me.

It took more than a year to kick the virus out of his body. Virus-free, he felt much better. Not great, but at least he got back on the golf course, albeit with a “disabled” sticker on his golf cart, and he joined his golf buddies for lunch each Friday. 

A text message from him on Jan. 11 says: “Certainly kinda tired right now…and sore. Can’t hit the ball nearly as far as before and my putting kinda sucks.  Loved playing with the guys … they’re so funny!”

Unfortunately, just a few months later, Florida’s steamy summer weather and my dad’s declining condition combined to relegate him to the sofa, where he watched TV, read, and surfed the internet.

In September, doctors admitted his chemo wasn’t doing the trick. They decided to switch gears and put him on Venclexta, which, in his words, “is kicking my ass.” 

For about 30 percent of people with MDS, the syndrome progresses to acute myeloid leukemia (AML). Eventually, that’s what happened. By mid October, he had developed excruciating pain in his left thigh. He thought he had pulled a muscle, but doctors found a blood clot, as well as a lung tumor, indicators that he was entering the end stages of his disease. 

Tony and I had planned to spend Christmas in Florida, but after hearing this news, I decided to take time off work during the week of Thanksgiving. When I told Megan on Nov. 5, she said, “You might want to come sooner.” Within 48 hours, I was on a plane to the States.

I arrived at my parents’ house around noon on Friday, Nov. 8. My sisters were already there. My dad was propped up on a hospital bed, watching TV. I ran to him. “Daddy, I’m here,” I said. His whole face lit up, and he smiled, an unnerving sight as his mouth was full of painful ulcers. Blood coated his teeth. He couldn’t say much, but he reacted to us with single words, phrases, or – in typical fashion that triggered inappropriate giggling – obnoxious facial expressions. Kate took his guitar down off the wall rack and summoned her muscle memory to play “You’ve Got a Friend in Me.” 

My father learned how to play guitar when Mike and I were young, and we all remember many special evenings singing along to his old standards. That’s why it felt particularly poignant when he gestured for his guitar and took a stab at playing “Froggy Went a’Courtin’.” We used to crack up at his alternate ending, which led to Froggie’s gruesome demise as he dejectedly left Molly Mouse’s house and walked in front of a truck. Seeing him strum and sing with us one last time was the greatest gift.

My brother, Mike, arrived around 10 p.m. Dad had quieted down by then, but he still looked thrilled to see that all four kids had arrived. Overall, it was a weirdly uplifting day. 

Hospice wouldn’t send an overnight nurse until dad’s symptoms worsened, so we hired a private nurse, Marlene, to stay with him and give the family some respite. Mike and I checked in to a hotel, and my sisters stayed at the house. 

Saturday, Nov. 9, dad was much less communicative, sleeping most of the day. As a special service provided by Cornerstone Hospice, U.S. Army Col. Dave Johnson came over to honor my father for his 23 years of military service. Col. Johnson deftly posed questions and shared stories to keep him engaged, and he seemed to awaken memories that made my dad smile with pride. Dad was bright-eyed and alert during this short ceremony. Col. Johnson gave dad a veteran’s pin and certificate. For my mom, he presented a lap quilt made by hospice volunteers. At the end, Col Johnson and my dad saluted each other.

We spent much of the day just hanging out next to dad, talking, singing and stroking his arms and legs. A supervisor from hospice, Cindy, gave us a briefing about his condition. She said he probably wouldn’t last much longer. She felt like he was in the end stages of transition. He was starting to struggle to swallow, and his lungs were filling with fluid. However, by evening, he had calmed down a lot and seemed peaceful. We played some songs on Apple TV that we remember dad playing on his guitar. At times he would smile and relax into his pillow. Cindy said it was time to start 24-hour nursing. 

Our first nurse came in the afternoon. She was nice enough, but she mostly sat on the sofa and didn’t really do anything (well, we didn’t let her do anything). At 8 p.m., our night nurse arrived. Her name was Belinda, and she was fantastic. She immediately stepped in and started checking dad, cleaning him up and caring for him very closely. 

My favorite quote from Belinda was, “Your family is very stimulating.” 

We laughed because it was so true. I kept whispering into dad’s ear: “Daddy, You made me who I am today. You made me strong. You made me resilient. You taught me values that have guided my life. Don’t worry, dad, we’re all going to be OK.”

Megan employed her hospital training to roll dad over and give him massages, clean his mouth, put drops in his eyes, get him a drink of water, and whatever else was needed to keep him comfortable.

Kate would pick up the guitar and serenade him repeatedly. Mike was our DJ, finding playlists of classics that dad loved. He also clasped his Apple watch on dad’s wrist and kept up a running commentary on his vital signs. Mom flitted about, providing updates to the endless visitors. She would pop into the living room to say, “Paul! Bill’s here. He wanted to say how much he misses you on the golf course!”

Belinda said we would have to reign it in if we want to give dad an opportunity to pass. She said it was like poking someone who was trying to sleep. Fair enough. but when I was leaving for the night, I said to dad, “I love you,” and he said, “I love you too.” So, he wasn’t quite ready to go.

Belinda had warned us that some dying people experience transitional aggression. They get angry and frustrated and lash out at the people they love. “I hope he doesn’t go through that,” she said. Unfortunately, he did.

When Mike and I arrived at the house Sunday morning, Nov. 10, he was sitting fully upright in his hospital bed, gesticulating wildly and moaning with eyes full of terror. It was a horrible sight. Belinda said he spent the night alternating between holding her hand and trying to hit her. He spent a lot of time trying to get out of bed. She had to sit him up straight because he was coughing so much, but he would flail all around and almost fall over. 

Belinda was like a balm for our aching hearts, but her shift ended at 8 a.m., and Lisa arrived. She was kind and helpful. She seemed to know that her shift would be the last. Lisa started giving dad heavy doses of morphine to help him relax. Eventually he did. All of us kids sat by him and said some goodbyes and shared some memories. We all kept encouraging him to let go. At one point his breathing was very shallow, but then he took a deep, loud breath. “He’s fighting it,” Lisa said.

Mom was pretty manic. Her coping mechanism? She insisted on making bacon. “Don’t you want bacon?” she shrieked at me. “I’m a vegetarian,” I reminded her.

Around 10:15 a.m., I sat by myself with dad, held his hand and whispered to him. Eventually, the rest of the kids came in and joined me. We just sat quietly with him and his breathing got shallower and shallower. Finally, Lisa said, “I think he’s about to pass. You should get your mom.” She was in the kitchen talking to a visitor. But she came in and touched dad’s face and said her good-byes.

After a few minutes, he released a long final exhale. It took about three minutes for his heart to stop. I would have thought I’d freak out about sitting next to a dead person, but I just wanted to kiss him and stroke his head. We loved on him for awhile, and then the nurse called the funeral home. Two men arrived and very respectfully wrapped dad in a white sheet and then draped a flag over the stretcher. I felt a pang of sad realization when they pulled the flag over his face to put him in the hearse. We all did our traditional “binoculars and wave,” like we always do when a loved one pulls away at the end of a visit. 

The rest of the day is a bit of a blur. People visited. People brought food. Mom started calling people. I called a few people for her. Everyone was so kind. Dad was so loved.

The next day, Monday, was surreal. Hospice workers came by to collect the medical equipment and the hospital bed. Cami, a friend from high school who is like another sister, called from Virginia to order lunch for us from Olive Garden. More visitors. Mom and I went to the funeral home to finalize the cremation arrangements. She was very distraught and doesn’t remember that visit at all. On the way home, she suddenly decided that we should all go out to dinner at dad’s favorite Mexican place.

Mike decided to drive the golf cart by himself, while the rest of us took the car to meet him there. Mom got weepy and wasn’t sure she could handle it. We almost turned back. When we arrived at the restaurant, Mike had somehow gotten there first with his pokey golf cart. He had settled in at a table with chips and salsa and a margarita. “What took you so long?” he asked. By the end of the night, we were laughing so hard, tears were pouring down our faces. We all needed that.

We headed over to Aunt Bev’s house. A family friend, Bev has become more like an aunt to all of us. She knew dad even before he met my mom. She was married to one of my dad’s Army buddies, and they were all stationed in Germany together. Don’t you know she has some good stories in her vault? We had a glass of wine and played with her dogs. 

Now, I’m back in Chile. Many times in the last few weeks, I’ve had the urge to call my dad. I want to chat about books, the protests in Santiago, our house in Michigan that’s been on the market since March, our plans for the future, the migratory birds in his backyard, comings and goings of friends and neighbors in The Villages, his medical treatments. Of course, I immediately remember that he won’t be on the other end of the line, and my heart sinks. How can this be real? How can he be gone?

Despite the numbness, the confusion, the sensation that I’m moving in slow motion while the rest of the world has sped up, despite the grief … I can muster deep gratitude in this holiday season. 


Dad …

  • for taking on a single mother with two young children, adding two more kids, and molding us into a tight-knit loving family;
  • for the bike rides, the walks on the beach, the trips to Home Depot, the cups of coffee, the sing-alongs, and the advice;
  • for giving me the opportunity to see the world and learn resilience as an Army Brat; 
  • for modeling integrity, loyalty, hard work, and patience; 
  • for all the laughter and love;
  • for who you were and all that you brought to the world, I will always be thankful.

I’ll always remember you like this. Strong. Healthy. Sipping coffee on an early morning stroll along the beach in Ocean City, NJ.

Bolivia Bound, Part 3 – Pampas Adventure (Dieciocho 2019)

The next leg of our journey was a little more adventurous (Sept. 21). It would take a plane, a van, and a boat to get us to the point where the Amazon rainforest gives way to a tropical grasslands ecosystem.

We flew in to Rurrenabaque, about 266 miles (428 km) northeast of La Paz and about 11,000 feet closer to sea level. The twin-propellor plane landed in what looked like a patch of cleared jungle. There were no buildings in sight. Buses awaited, so we climbed aboard for the short drive to the “airport,” which was not much bigger than a middle-class home in the States.

The Rurrenabaque Airport

We met our driver, who tossed our luggage on top of his van, and off we went.

“How far is it to the river?” I asked, expecting a ride of 15 minutes or so.

“Mmmm… maybe 3 hours or 3 1/2 hours. Depends on the road,” he answered.

Sure enough, we bounced and bumped and sucked dust for more than three hours on what could only very generously be described as a “road.” Our driver deftly veered to avoid potholes or massive ruts, drove on the wrong side – or even off the road – as needed, zipped past heavy trucks, slowing down at times to search for wildlife. Along the way, we wolfed down Subway sandwiches, which we had picked up in the La Paz airport, something we regretted when we realized we were stopping for lunch. In the small village of San Jose, we sat down to a spread of soup, fish, and various side dishes.

When it comes to travel, I love a lazy beach or a vibrant city as much as anyone. But the real attraction to me is encountering something for the first time: food, animals, music, art … you name it. As soon as we reached the quiet port of Tucumán and met our guide, Norman, we knew this would be a visit overflowing with “firsts.”

Norman led us down a long flight of steps to the banks of the Yacuma River, where we climbed aboard a canoe for another 3-hour journey. We slowly motored upstream to the Yacare Lodge. Norman grew up in the jungle community of San Jose de Uchupiamonas, which was instrumental in developing sustainable eco-tourism projects in the area. He launched his own organization, Madidi Expeditions, in 2015.

I was hoping to see a capybara, the world’s largest rodent, and maybe a few caiman, a cousin of the alligator. I would have been happy with a single spotting of each. In fact, we stopped counting after a short time. Capybara dotted the riverbanks, munching grass, burrowing into the mud to cool off, or bathing in the shallow water.

Tony estimated we saw a caiman every three seconds, which would be close to 4,000 caiman on the way to our lodge. Norman explained that two types of caiman dwell here: the speckled caiman and the black caiman, which is bigger with thicker scales.

During the boat ride, we also saw countless birds of every size and color. My favorite was the ubiquitous hoatzin, which I nicknamed “jungle chicken.” According to the website Neotropical Birds:

The Hoatzin is such a bizarre and unique bird that it almost has to be seen to be believed. … They move awkwardly, however, and so give themselves away with sounds of crashing through the vegetation, accompanied by  loud vocalizations. Hoatzins in effect are flying cows: their diet primarily is young leaves and buds, which are digested in the crop with the aid of bacteria and microbes. Hoatzins nest over the water. The young can swim, and so may drop to the water when threatened. The nestlings retain claws on their wing (lost in the adult), which they use in climbing back to the nest. 

How crazy is that? Plus, they just looked cool.

Another highlight of our journey to the lodge occurred when Norman motored the boat close to the shore. Suddenly, a huge troop of yellow squirrel monkeys came swinging through the trees. My calm delight turned to squealing surprise as they bounded on to our boat and scampered across our backs, ostensibly in search of food. Berlin shrieked with fear. It was awesome.

We also got glimpses of pink river dolphins. I had hoped to swim with them, but we were feeling eager to reach the lodge by then. Plus, the caiman lingering nearby were a slight deterrent.

The riverfront lodge was basic, featuring only our simple rooms and a screened in dining area. Norman’s wife and her helpers fixed delicious meals for us, and the neighbor had beer for sale. So we were set.

The next morning, Norman took us out for a sunrise boat ride. The river was bursting with activity. Howler monkeys greeted each other with their signature roar. Birds chattered in the brush, competing to be the loudest, and swooped through the air. Caiman half submerged, staked out their territory with violent shivers that stirred up the muddy water and intimidated potential rivals. We pulled over and walked up to a flat grassy area, where we watched the fuchsia sun rising over distant trees.

Back in the boat, Norman paused for a bit so we could see a face-off between two big caiman while another floated just under the surface, seemingly entranced.

We also saw a few caiman flip fish into their mouths, and we witnessed a tiny kingfisher spearing a snack. The bushes overflowed with jungle chickens chomping on the leaves. Everyone was enjoying their breakfast. When we returned to the lodge, the tree by the kitchen was full of yellow squirrel monkeys. Cutest monkeys ever.

After a fabulous breakfast, we ditched Stella and Mane and headed back out in the boat. Norman pulled the boat ashore, and we all hiked through the pampas to a lagoon.

These cows came running to check us out.

Norman said every year the river rises to cover the grassland, and everything dies. Then the water recedes, and everything grows back. Here, Berlin points to the high water mark on a post.

When we passed through a small grove of trees, we emerged at the edge of the lagoon, which looked like a massive bowl of bubbling caiman stew. There were thousands!

While the water level is high, caiman lay eggs far from the river, Norman explained. When the water recedes leaving a small lagoon, those newly hatched caiman hang out for a season until they can access the river safely.

We hung out in the shade, watching storks poke around the water plants while flocks of white-faced whistler ducks swooped through the air. Norman ventured into the sludge to look for snakes.

After awhile, another guide yelled that he had found one, so we all traipsed to the other side of the lagoon. It was a “false cobra,” a type of anaconda. Norman said it flares its neck like a cobra, but when it realizes you know it’s not venomous, then it plays dead. A group of tourists acted like idiots with the poor snake, and then we got to hold it. 

In the afternoon, Norman took the kids, Ian, and Peter out fishing for piranhas (which we ate for dinner). Stella, Tony, and I lounged around the lodge. For our final outing of the day, we motored upstream to watch the sunset and then back to the lodge in total darkness. Norman kept his flashlight aimed on the water ahead so we could see the creepy glow of caiman eyes that dotted the river.

Oh, pirahnas? Very toothy and bony. Not my favorite.

The next morning, a few of us headed out in the boat, but the river was eerily quiet. “Because of the weather,” said Norman. Rain clouds were rolling in.

We ate breakfast and packed up our bags to head home. Of course, that’s when the torrential downpour started. Norman delayed as long as he could, but we had to get back to the port of Tucumán for our ride to Rurrenabaque, where we would catch the plane to La Paz and connect to our flight to Santiago. It was going to be a long day of travel.

Norman handed us each a plastic rain slicker and bailed out the boat, and off we went. The rain never let up for the entire 3-hour journey, but I managed to get myself in a zen space and kind of appreciated it. At the little port, we said farewell to Norman, changed our clothes, and found our van driver. Then the next leg of our adventure began.

Remember the dusty “road” we took to get to the river? Now the dust had turned to mud. Our van slipped and slid all over the place until eventually we encountered a road block.

At this point, we were feeling pretty hopeless about getting back to Rurrenabaque on time for our flight. However, our badass driver just whipped that van around and took off. He drove onto some roads that didn’t look quite ready for vehicles. He wove through villages. He waved nonchalantly at road crew workers who tried to warn him. And sure enough, about four hours later, we arrived at the airport with time to spare.

Our little puddle jumper returned us to La Paz, where we learned that we were likely bumped from our flight to Santiago. Apparently, the thin cold air prevented the plane from taking off with a full load of passengers. Ian played the “I’m-traveling-with-two-children-and-my-sick-old-father” card to no avail. Stella kept feeding the girls money to use the massage chairs while Ian and I hung out at the airline counter, waiting for news.

Eventually we accepted our fate. Latam Airlines drove us to a decent hotel in the city and covered the cost of meals until we could take off the next morning. On the plus side? It gave me time to weed through thousands of photos from our trip.

I am growing increasingly obsessed with birds. Here are some of my favorites from our Amazon adventure.

white-browed blackbird
striated heron
southern screamers
social flycatcher
snowy egret hitching a ride on a capybara
red-capped cardinal (Berlin called it the Sharon Bird.)
green kingfisher
black-fronted nunbird
green and rufous kingfisher

All right. I could do this all night. But it’s time to say good-bye to beautiful Bolivia.

Bolivia Bound, Part 2 – La Paz (Dieciocho 2019)

During our quick visit to Bolivia, we only scratched the surface of La Paz. Fortunately, another Nido friend was also in town. Misti had lived in La Paz for two years, and she was back visiting friends, so she served as tour guide for our one full day in the city.

Ian booked our hotels, which is why we ended up staying at a place with the slogan “easy, fun, social.” You have to check out the website to fully appreciate my apprehension: Loki Hostel. Fortunately, it did not live up to the hype. It was housed in a gorgeous old building with high ceilings, parquet floors, French doors, and other lovely architectural features. With a little redecorating, it could have been a swanky upscale boutique hotel. After our long drive from Lake Titicaca, we checked in and ate a late lunch in the hotel restaurant (which also surpassed my expectations).

With no real plans, we wandered toward Murillo Square and found ourselves in front of the Catedral Basílica de Nuestra Señora de La Paz (known as the La Paz Cathedral in English). The crowd mesmerized us with its diversity: global tourists, businessmen in suits on their cellphones, trendy Bolivians in jeans and sweaters, cholitas (indigenous women dressed in traditional layered skirts and bowler hats), university students studying in the sunshine, and hawkers selling everything from prayer candles to tours.

This vendor was etching a prayer onto a candle for the cholita.
Cutie eating popcorn at his parent’s little shop.

Strolling around the neighborhood, we stumbled upon the textile market. Everything was stunning. It took all my restraint not to buy every bag, poncho, sweater, table runner, pillowcase, and aguayo (the traditional blanket for carrying babies and other items on your back). Eventually, we popped in to an Irish pub for happy hour and then headed to a Mexican restaurant for dinner. Veggie tacos and margaritas – yum!

In the morning, we met Misti and poked around the Witches Market. We had already seen those shops during yesterday’s exploration, but we didn’t realize what they were. Misti said it’s become much more touristy since she lived here 5 years ago. They had lots of herbs and coco leaves, objects to place on your shrine, very voodoo-y bibs and bobs, but the most interesting were the llama fetuses, which are supposed to bring good luck. Apparently, they are placed in the foundation of a new construction as a blessing. 

From there, we walked to the teleferico. La Paz has the world’s largest high-altitude urban cable car system, according to an article on The Telegraph website. We took the Red Line up to El Alto, the city at the top of the basin, and then we transferred to the Silver Line, which gave us an interesting perspective on the perimeter of the city.

We returned to the city on the red line but not before getting a good look at a car stuck in a chasm on the hillside. (I have spent hours online trying to figure out how it got there, and the only semi-reliable information I found is from Reuters. Apparently a taxi driver lost control of his vehicle and drove off the cliff in 2011. Three people died, and three were rescued.)

We parted ways with Stella’s family, and Misti continued our tour for the rest of the afternoon, hiking up and down the steep streets of La Paz and pausing occasionally to share stories about the city’s wacky history. One of the most bizarre stories put the San Pedro Prison at center stage. Located smack dab in the middle of a nice part of town, the prison looks innocuous from the outside, not even like a prison. Inside, it’s a city within a city, where inmates run the show. This story about the prison on the Architectural Review website is fascinating.

Misti took us to one of her favorite restaurants, Namas Té, an artsy little vegan place. Such a cool vibe, and the food was fabulous.

Another highlight of our walking tour was MUSEF, the Museo Nacional de Etnografía y Folklore. Housed in the colonial Marquis de Villa Verde Palace, which was built in 1730, the small museum offers fantastic collections: pottery, textiles, masks, feather art, and traditional clothing. I didn’t take many photos inside, but I loved it all!

We hung out at the museum’s coffee shop for awhile, chatting about the museum and Bolivian culture, before bidding farewell to Misti and heading back to our hotel. For dinner, we met up with our group and walked to The Local Dish. Another great choice!

Our fabulous tour guide!

Bolivia Bound, Part 1 – Lake Titicaca (Dieciocho 2019)

With a week off school in honor of Chile’s Dieciocho holiday, we headed north to check out Bolivia with our traveling companions, Ian and Stella; their two daughters, Mane and Berlin; and Ian’s dad, Peter. Tony and I started popping Diamox earlier in the week in anticipation of La Paz’s famously brutal altitude.

Upon landing, Tony and I were among the first to get through immigration, so we waited at baggage claim for the rest of the gang. Ian finally showed up to tell us that poor little Berlin was the first casualty of the altitude. At 13,323 feet (4,061 meters) El Alto International Airport is the highest international airport in the world. Officials had recognized Berlin’s pallid complexion and whisked her off for a dose of oxygen.

Soon, we found our driver and crowded into the van for a 3.5-hour journey to Copacabana, a touristy hamlet on the shores of Lake Titicaca. The drive included some interesting moments, such as this little makeshift ferry across the narrow Strait of Tiquina.

Waiting for the ferry.
Driving on to the “ferry.”
First view of Copacabana.

We checked in to Hotel Rosario and lounged around, feeling lazy and sluggish in the thin air. Eventually, we wandered around town while Ian took the girls to the lake to roll around on the water in a big inflatable hamster ball.

The view from our hotel room.
The local beer, usually served warmish.
Walking along the waterfront.

Later, we met up for dinner, indecisively checking out the myriad backpacker cafés and dodgy beer bars. Stella pointed to a Thai restaurant, noting that it was listed among the top 10 restaurants of Copacabana on TripAdvisor. “Really, we’re going to get Thai food in Bolivia?” Ian mocked. “This seems like a bad idea.” There was no real ambiance; there was only one guy working so service was super slow; and they were playing a gory nature show on a big screen TV. After about 15 minutes of watching a snake stalk a mouse, we finally witnessed the kill. I asked the waiter to change the channel after the mouse was ripped into bloody chunks. As we were the only ones in the restaurant by then, he put on the old Pink Panther cartoons, which pleased the girls. Our food was shockingly delicious. I got a tofu green curry, which was flavorful and spicy. Living in Chile, we had forgotten what spicy food tastes like. Everyone loved their meals. Berlin ordered Buffalo wings, and after awhile, we realized she thought it was going to be buffalo meat. She kept saying, “When are my buffalos coming?” She was disappointed to find out they were chicken.

The next day, Stella and Mane hung back at the hotel for a little down time while the rest of us took a boat ride to Isla del Sol (Island of the Sun). We sat up on the rooftop of the boat under gorgeous blue skies. Looking out at the lake, we couldn’t see where it ended. It felt more like an ocean with Peru to the east and Bolivia to the west.

In fact, the highest navigable lake in the world actually was once part of an even more massive body of water that covered most of the Altiplano (the high-altitude plateau that stretches across 40,000 square miles in South America). Much of that mega-lake evaporated over time, but Lake Titicaca continues to fill with precipitation and run-off from surrounding glaciers.

At the southern tip of Isla del Sol, our guide, Rudy, led us up a short path to a small stone building. Berlin stood impatiently at the top, hands on hips, while we panted and slowly climbed the stairs. “Come ON!” she shouted. “I could have done cartwheels all the way up this little hill!”

Turns out the site was Pilko Kaina (Temple of the Sun), among the best preserved Incan complexes in the region, Rudy said. It included the two-story Palacio del Inca, a temple believed to have been constructed by Incan emperor, Túpac Inca Yupanqui. Rudy told us the building would have been much grander, but Spanish invaders tore down the top layer, looking for gold. He explained the site featured typical Incan symbolism, such as trapezoidal doorways facing Isla de la Luna (Island of the Moon) and three layers of bricks representing the three levels of existence.

Many researchers refer to Lake Titicaca as the “cradle of the region’s ancient civilizations.” According to the website Ancient Origins:

There are a number of islands on Lake Titicaca, some of which play an important part in Inca mythology. The Isla del Sol (Sun Island), for instance, is believed to be the home of the Incan sun god, Inti. Additionally, this is the birth place, according to one Incan legend, of Manco Capac, the founder of the first Incan dynasty . In this legend, Manco Capac was brought up from the depths of Lake Titicaca by Inti. Manco Capac and his siblings were sent up to the earth by the sun god, and emerged from the cave of Pacaritambo (or the waters of Lake Titicaca, according to another version of the legend). Manco Capac was carrying a golden staff, and was instructed to build a Temple of the Sun on the spot where the staff sank into the earth. Using underground caves, the siblings travelled to Cusco, where they built a temple in honor of their father, Inti.

After checking out a big map of the island near the ruins, we walked another two kilometers along a path, chatting with Rudy about the area’s history and current events. He pointed out repeatedly how hard the people worked on this island with its steep terraced farms and lack of easy access to modern amenities.

“Do you know what those are?” Rudy asked Berlin, pointing to some burros.

She nodded.

“Do you know what you call baby burros in Spanish?” he asked.

She shook her head shyly.

“Burritos!” he laughed.

Heading down to the port, we paused to buy a few souvenirs from a local woman. Partway down the shady path, Rudy showed us the “Fountain of Youth,” an Incan fountain with three spouts. Water poured from two of the spouts and down rivulets to the lake. The third spout was blocked and the water rerouted to a big tank, where it gets pumped up to the village at the top of the hill. Rudy said nobody really knows the source of this fresh water, but apparently the Incans figured it out. He told us the spouts represented three Incan values: don’t lie, don’t steal, and don’t be lazy.

The water runs down rivulets on either side of the Escalera de Las Incas (the Incan Steps), a very steep rock staircase with about 200 steps leading down to the lake. At the bottom are statues of Manco Capac and Mama Ocllo, the legendary first Incan people, which the website Bolivian Life calls “the Adam and Eve of the Andes.”

Stella at happy hour.
Beachfront bar sunset.

That night, we had dinner at a little family-owned joint called Maura’z. I’m still drooling over my trout with garlic sauce. Que rico! While warm beer was the norm in Bolivia, this place served it icy cold.

Knowing we were heading back to La Paz at 11 a.m. the next morning, Tony and I made plans to fit in one more local attraction. Despite our altitude-induced listlessness, we forced ourselves to eat an early breakfast and then asked the hotel concierge how to reach Cerro el Calvario (Calvary Hill). He gave us a map and told us it would take about an hour to hike to the top. “Even for old, fat people?” I asked. In fact, we did it in 30 minutes! It was very steep at parts, and we had to pause a lot to catch our breath. Luckily, a sweet black and white terrier came along to show us the way. He would bound up the steps and then double back to wait for us, over and over. Once we got to the top, he took off, presumably to help some other pilgrims find the sacred site.

The path is lined with monuments representing the 14 Stations of the Cross, which depict events leading to Christ’s crucifixion. The top of the hill features a row of memorials, ostensibly those of big donors, mostly dating from the 1940s.

This sign cracked me up: If you pick up your garbage, heaven awaits you.

We lingered and enjoyed the views for a few minutes. Unfortunately, the area featured quite a bit of trash and graffiti. I’m guessing it’s a backpacker party destination. Too bad. While I was staring down at the lake, I realized I hadn’t actually touched the water. I almost left this place without dipping my toes in Lake Titicaca! We walked down to the beach, where I kicked off my shoes and socks and waded into the icy cold water. So worth it.

Memories of Mexico

After 18 years of teaching in elementary school, I started a new position teaching English in grades 7 and 8 this year. Yikes! It was a little scary at first – these kids are so big … but they’re also funny, articulate, passionate, and eager to connect. I love it. Anyway, it has taken a lot of brain power to figure out my new role, so in the meantime I pushed all my hobbies to the back burner. I haven’t picked up my ukulele in weeks. After immersing myself in Spanish and recommitting to the language in Mexico, I dropped it like a hot potato once I got home. Yoga? No-ga. Meditation? I seriously can’t quiet my mind enough to even try. And blogging? Well, yeah, that’s why I’m here. Time to get back on the horse. (Oh, I also haven’t gone horseback riding in ages.)

So… back to Mexico. In addition to taking classes, exploring with my guides, and attempting to bond with my host family, I also enjoyed a few excursions, some with the group and some on my own.

Museo Hacienda de San Cristóbal Polaxtla

On Thursday afternoons, all students at the Livit Immersion Center headed out of town to check out a nearby attraction. Our first outing brought us to the Museo Hacienda de San Cristóbal Polaxtla. As part of Mexico’s land reform, large privately owned farms were divided up and turned into “ejidos,” government-owned collectives. The hacienda is one of three purchased by Antonio Haghenbeck for the purpose of conservation. The hacienda was in a state of disrepair and ruin, so he began to restore it. He incorporated architectural elements, furnishings, and decorations he collected from other old homes.

The caretaker led us through many of the rooms, sharing stories (in Spanish) about the ex-hacienda’s interesting history. He said Haghenbeck had three personal values: his Catholic religion, philanthropy, and the prevention of animal cruelty.

The family’s personal chapel, chock full of paintings depicting scenes from the Bible.

If Haghenbeck was such an animal lover, then why were there dead animals in every room? I asked the guide this question, and he explained that Haghenbeck never killed an animal. He rescued them from zoos and circuses, so these guys just died of old age!

In the 1600s, the hacienda was a key producer of wheat and barley. The old, dilapidated granary still stands.

According to the guide, this water once played host to swans and beautiful fish. Peacocks and other exotic animals roamed the property. It’s hard to fathom its former glory. Still, what a weirdly fascinating place.

Atlixco

On my second Thursday in Puebla, we all piled into cars and headed about 25 kilometers west to the municipality of Atlixco. The city is best known as a producer of ornamental flowers and trees. However, we drove through town and up the hill a bit to La Granja Piscícola Xouilin, a massive fish farm. Not exactly a tourist hot spot, the farm was nevertheless entertaining. We bought food and tossed it to the writhing, flipping masses of trout. We watched the workers sorting fish into different pools.

Our next stop was an old textile factory in Metepec that was powered by snow melt from the Iztaccihuatl Volcano, which flowed through the factory’s property and powered huge turbines. Later the building was turned in to a rehabilitation hospital, and now it’s a hotel. There wasn’t much to see, but huge old photographs decorate the public spaces, illustrating what life was like for workers in the factory.

The factory/hotel grounds today.

On the way back to Puebla, we stopped to walk around the Atlixco town square. Within five minutes, a deluge ensued. My housemate, Jacinda, and I found refuge in a coffee shop, where we sat dry and caffeinated till the storm passed. This beautiful view greeted us when we emerged.

Cholula

Since landing in Mexico, I kept hearing about Cholula: When will you visit Cholula? Don’t miss Cholula while you’re here! Have you been to Cholula yet? I was too embarrassed to admit I had no idea what they were talking about. Bogged down by Spanish homework, I hadn’t taken the time to learn about where I was staying. When I finally took the time to google Cholula, I knew I wanted to spend my Saturday there.

I was a little nervous to go on my own, but it was my only weekend here, so I wanted one day to be a tourist. I called an uber, and the driver was a really nice young guy named Pablo. I told him right away that I needed to practice my Spanish, and so we did. He asked me lots of questions, and I think I did OK. We arranged for him to pick me up at 2 p.m.

I arrived at Cholula at 8:30 a.m., and it was so quiet and peaceful. I walked up the hill to La Iglesia de los Remedios. (The “hill” is actually the city’s famous pyramid.)

Back at street level, nothing was open yet, but I loved all the colors of the buildings and the fresh air. I paused to snap a few pictures of the volcanos, and then I wandered aimlessly through the quiet town. The two volcanos, Popocatépetl and Iztaccíhuatl, are also characters in an Aztec legend. You can read all about it on the Ancient Origins website.

Eventually I returned to the 2,000-year-old Pyramide Tepanapa, the world’s largest man-made pyramid by volume, even bigger than those in Egypt! According to the Atlas Obscura website:

Stylistically, the pyramid is an oddity, puzzling archeologists to this day by incorporating architectural elements of both the Teotihuacan and El Tajin civilizations.
During the many pre-Columbian power shifts in Mexico, the pyramid itself fell out of use in favor of other structures, such as one of the many sacrificial altars on the ten-acre site. It is unclear whether it was through disuse that the pyramid became overgrown with shrubbery, or if, when the Aztecs caught wind of the impending Spanish arrival, the Cholulans literally buried the pyramid in a last-ditch, communal effort to preserve the massive temple, an important piece of their culture.
Either way, when the Spanish arrived at Cholula in 1519, Cortes and his men were so occupied with the decimation of the indigenous people and their more conspicuous holy sites that they failed to recognize the pyramid as such, instead thinking it the perfect hill site for one of their countless new churches! Within the year, La Iglesia de los Remedios was constructed, where it remains to this day.
As the dirt began to fall away, the pyramid revealed itself to archeologists, who have excavated the pyramid’s stairways, platforms, altars, and over five miles of tunnels snaking through the structure’s innards.

It was mind-boggling to imagine the pre-hispanic people wandering on those same paths. You could see where the tunnels branched off and went down or up steep stairs.

After exiting the pyramid, I continued on a path through the archaeological site. There was a place where they think the people made sacrifices of children to call for rain. Yikes.

My papa poblano, Javier, said the whole city is built on top of archaeological sites. He said every hill is actually a pyramid. His wife, Anita, told me that one of her relatives was building a house in Cholula, and when they dug the foundation, they found small Aztec artifacts.

I popped in to the Convento de San Gabriel, a church and friary built in the 1500s.

The Museo Regional de Cholula had a cool multi-media presentation about the two volcanoes, including a video about the legend. My favorite part, though were the art exhibits and one famous artist in particular, Jacobo Angeles. He creates crazy fantastical sculptures called alebrijes with wood and paper. Here are some of his pieces:

I checked out the Feria de Molotes, where about 100 vendors hawked molotes: fried dough with various fillings. I ordered two: one with mushrooms, and one with huitlacoche, which is a black fungus that grows on corn. Also known as corn smut – ha! – or Mexican truffles. I had no idea what I was eating, so I had to read about it later. I took my molotes out of the tent (it was super loud with a Mexican band performing) and sat just outside at a beer stand. I got a beer with a popote con tamarindo (a straw coated in a sugary tamarind mixture). It was quite yummy. While I sat at a shady table, I watched the Danza de los Voladores de Papantla. These performers erected a tall pole (30 meters?) and while one guy stayed up top playing music, the others hung from ropes and slowly descended as they rotated around the pole. The article linked above has lots of good info explaining the ritual.

The town square featured all kinds of touristy attractions. One thing that was new to me: the jicaleto. It was a big piece of jicama shaped like a ping pong paddle. The vendor coated it with a lemony-chili mixture and then dipped it in whatever sugary flavor the customer requested.

When Pablo dropped me off in the morning, I was afraid I would struggle to fill the hours before our designated meeting time at 2 p.m. In fact, I was having so much fun, I had to sprint through town to meet him on time. What a great day!

Walk in the Park

On another one of my favorite afternoons, I went for a walk after class. I visited the Parque Ecologico, where Anita walks every day. It was a beautiful park with lots of trees, a lake, many exercise options, picnic areas, playgrounds, a skatepark, a mini golf course, and aviary.

I walked through to the other side, and then exited the park to head back into town. I found a couple small markets, a flea market, and some nice jewelry stores, where I bought some nice talavera earrings.

Then as I was walking back to the house, I realized there was some kind of fiesta going on at the park near our neighborhood. I crossed the big boulevard and found  the second annual feria de cemitas. I bought some water and sat down to watch the Mexican band just as it was wrapping up. The crowd called for an encore, so they started up again with “La Bamba.” The band introduced some young guys who demonstrated a traditional dance. They started pulling women out of the audience to join them. I reluctantly agreed, and I did a pretty pathetic version of the Mexican dance, but my young partner was very sweet. His wee little brother played in the band. So cute!

Mexico definitely stole my heart, and I am completely enamored with its language, art, music, dances, food, and bright colors. Can’t wait to go back!

Hanging with my guias (guides) in Puebla, Mexico

At the Livit Immersion Center, our class wrapped up at 1 p.m. each day. After lunch on Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays, each student was matched with a personal guide for some intensive Spanish practice while checking out Puebla’s attractions. As a UNESCO World Heritage Site, this city has no shortage of historical sites. (Here’s a long but fascinating story about Puebla from the Smithsonian website.)

It almost didn’t matter where I went with my guide. It was pretty hard to maintain a conversation in Spanish while paying attention to where I was walking or what I was seeing. I usually focused on the guide’s face and tried not to trip over uneven pavement. Good thing I took some photos!

My first week, I hung out with Noemi, an adorable young woman who spoke slowly and clearly so that I understood almost everything she said.

Week 1, Day 1: Our first day together, she showed me the historical town center, known as “el Zócalo.” Flanked by the Cathedral of Puebla on one side and a colonnade of colorful buildings – including Palacio Municipal, Puebla’s town hall – on the other three sides, el Zócalo was established as a marketplace in 1531, but is now a tree-filled park.

Noemi and I breezed through the Amparo Museum, where I could have easily spent the whole day. I didn’t take many photos inside, but the space was fantastic. Housed in two colonial-era buildings, the museum juxtaposes 4,000 years of history with modern multi-media art exhibits.

Here I am posing on the rooftop terrace.

Week 1, Day 2: Noemi took me to one of my favorite destinations in Puebla, the Museum of the Mexican Revolution, also known as Casa Hermanos Serdán. As someone who learned very little (nothing?) about Mexico in school, I was blown away by the fascinating story surrounding the beginning of Mexico’s revolution, which ended a dictatorship and established a constitutional republic.

The museum is housed in the former home of the Serdán family, which included brothers Maximo and Aquiles, as well as their sister Carmen. They had been pivotal in planning an uprising led by Francisco I. Madero against the government of President Porfirio Díaz in 1910, but the plot was discovered. On Nov. 18 of that year, the chief of police approached the house with a warrant for Aguiles’ arrest, but he was shot and killed. Soldiers and police surrounded the house, and a 3-hour shootout ensued. The Serdáns and their supporters were vastly outnumbered. Maximo was killed after hiding his brother under the floorboards. When Aquiles tried to escape the next day, a soldier spotted him and killed him. Carmen and her mother were captured and imprisoned.

The revolution officially kicked off two days after the shootout at the Serdán home. President Porfirio Díaz stepped down in May 1911. The Serdán family is revered in Puebla for their bravery and contributions to the revolution.

Artifacts in the museum recreate the era with interpretive signs in Spanish and English. I was fascinated by the arrangement that matched the photo, including the bullet-riddled mirror.

Noemi and I sat for a while and watched a movie that recreated the story of the shootout.

The pockmarked facade of the home reminds passers-by of the shootout that marked the beginning of the Mexican Revolution.

Week 1, Day 3: Noemi and I took an uber to check out “los fuertes,” where I learned that Cinco de Mayo is not just an opportunity to wear a sombrero and pound tequila shots.

According to the Cinco de Mayo article on the history.com website, Cinco de Mayo celebrates the victory of the Mexican army over France at the Battle of Puebla during the Franco-Mexican War on May 5, 1862.

When Mexico defaulted on loans from Europe, Spain and Britain struck a deal with the Mexican government, but France launched an attack in 1861. President Benito Juárez “rounded up a ragtag force of 2,000 loyal men—many of them either indigenous Mexicans or of mixed ancestry—and sent them to Puebla,” the article says. They faced an attack of 6,000 French troops, who retreated after a full day of fighting and a loss of about 500 men.

The battle took place on hillsides in Puebla topped by the Fort of Loreto and the Fort of Guadalupe, both originally built as chapels and converted to museums.

Noemi and I strolled around the hill, enjoying the views and chatting about her life. We didn’t go inside the forts or any of the many museums in the huge area known as Centro Cívico Cultural 5 de Mayo. That was fine with me. I needed some tranquility, and this park delivered.

We walked down the hill and back to the historic town center, passing first through Barrio de Xanenetla, a neighborhood that had fallen on hard times until the community pulled together through a street art initiative.

On our way back to my ‘hood, Noemi took me down Cinco de Mayo St., which crackled with life. The street was full of people shopping, performing, selling street food, resting on benches, eating ice cream, hawking balloons, chatting on phones, waiting for buses, pushing strollers, and doing all the things regular people do. “This is real,” Noemi said to me (only in Spanish). “Where you’re staying is historical, more tranquilo, but this is real life.” At that point, she spotted a toy store and bought a mini hula hoop for her daughter.

Week 2, Day 1: New week, new guide. This time, I was assigned to Pedro, a nice young guy who was passionate about the history of Puebla. We tagged along with another student, Zoe, and her guide, Angelica, to learn more about Puebla’s famous talavera industry.

Indigenous people in Mexico have been producing pottery for thousands of years, but new techniques and motifs arrived from Europe with the Spanish conquest. According to the website of the workshop we visited, Talavera de la Luz:

During Colonial times, Spaniards started bringing ceramics from Europe, as well as establishing Spanish potter workshops. Puebla was the main pottery production center not only of the New Spain, but of the New World. In 1550, 20 years after the city was founded, it already had several workshops of glazed pottery and tiles which would later be known as Talavera de Puebla and that, from that time, became the best known type of ceramics in the country and one of the oldest crafts in Mexico. Its name comes from the place of origin of the first artisans which produced it and from the fact that the techniques used copied those used in the town of Talavera de la Reyna, in Spain.

Before visiting the Talavera workshop, Angelica suggested we stop at a “taller de barro,” or workshop of clay. This was the highlight of my day! The workshop was located in a narrow alley full of smoke from the fire that heated the kiln. We watched a guy making chalices that are used during Day of the Dead (for candles or incense, I think). The maestro of the workshop showed us around and gave a ton of information. I tried really hard to pay attention and understand, I swear. But after awhile, I just got distracted. There was so much to see. I do recall him saying that they produce different items, depending on the season and the upcoming holidays. Oh, and he said a piece takes 15 days from start to finish.

Next, we visited the much swankier Talavera de la Luz, which produces the real deal – only nine workshops are certified by the regulatory body Consejo Regulador de la Talavera, and it’s one of them.

Week 2, Day 2: Today Pedro and I just wandered aimlessly around town. There was a huge festival celebrating the Day of Our Lady of Mount Carmel. Since my casa was very near the church honoring her, our neighborhood was bonkers. We strolled through the festival for a bit, checking out all the food and wares. It was hard to take photos because of the crowds and the low awnings over the booths.

We were leaving the festival when I saw this little show of Lucha Libre! So hilarious!

I wanted to buy some traditional candy as gifts for people back in Chile, so Pedro took me to the Calle de los Dulces (Street of Sweets). I loaded up on camotes (cigar shaped treats made from sweet potatoes), Tortitas de Santa Clara (little shortbread pies with a pumpkin seed filling), jamoncillo (a milky fudge), and more. He also took me to a great little chocolate shop, La Casa de Robertina, where I bought a few more gifts (for myself) and some fancy coffee for my hosts.

On the way back to my house, I was feeling exhausted. I really just wanted to plop on the sofa with a beer. I stopped by a convenience store and bought a beer and some cookies, but then I got a bit embarrassed about it. I didn’t want my hosts to find an empty beer can in my room. So I drank it in secret and then stashed the can in my bag so I could throw it away outside the house. I felt like an underage college student. What has happened to me?

Week 2/Day 3: For my last day with a guide, I really just wanted to chill. I was so mentally and physically exhausted. Jacinda had recommended a nice little museum with an interesting art exhibit. I told Pedro I wanted to see that, and afterwards I thought he and I could hang out at a coffee shop for the rest of the afternoon. Instead, we walked for about 800 miles because Pedro’s maps app kept giving him incorrect directions. I wanted to scream. Finally, we asked some people for directions and walked another 800 miles to find the museum at La Universidad de las Américas Puebla. Two artists were spotlighted: Paloma Torres and Miguel Covarrubias.

Torres’ art included felt work tapestries, stone sculptures, large columns, and other works inspired both by the natural world and big cities.

Covarrubias was a painter, caricaturist, illustrator, ethnographer, and historian. His work was featured in Vanity Fair and the New Yorker magazines, and his style influenced artists around the world. I went down the internet rabbit hole reading about him. What an interesting and accomplished man. Here’s a fun read from the Smithsonian’s National Portrait Gallery website. Pedro poses with one of Covarrubias’ maps, which was made for Goodyear as a promotional give-away.

To be honest, I could go the rest of my life without visiting another church, but Pedro said I couldn’t leave Puebla without seeing La Capilla del Rosario. The church was closed when we got there, so we killed a little time by visiting the museum next door, Museo Jose Luis Bello & Zetina. It was pretty interesting. According to a sign on the building:

The historic house museum has retained its original furniture from the 19th century, mainly from Europe. Its heritage is enriched by a series of silver, bronze, glass, marble and porcelain articles. The house holds the art collection that was part of the convent of the Order of Santo Domingo de Guzman. With the “Reform Laws,” the friars were expelled from their property in 1861 and a large part of the convent was destroyed. The rest was sold to private parties. Mr. Jose Luis Bello y Gonzalez, grandfather of our collector, bought the part of the convent that was the former pilgrim portal, adapting the lower floor for offices and constructing a private dwelling on the upper floor where Mr. Rodolfo Bello y Acedo lived; he bequeathed it to his son, Mr. Jose Luis Bello y Zetina, upon whose death it was given to a foundation to establish the “House Museum.”

When we came out, the church was open, so we popped in. Holy crap, I now see why this place is famous. The chapel is housed in the Church of Santo Domingo, which was fancy enough.

But then we turned left into the chapel, La Capilla del Rosario, and my jaw dropped. The 17th-century chapel is literally dripping with gold, 23-carat gold leaf to be precise. According to this Atlas Obscura article, “Its purpose was to honor the Virgin Mary as well as to teach the locals the practice of the rosary, of which the Dominicans (the order in charge of the temple), were ardent promoters.” Pedro and I chatted a bit about how hard it is to justify that much money going toward decorations when the church’s mission is to help the poor. But such is life.

Hanging out with the guias was both the most challenging and the most useful part of my Spanish immersion experience. I both dreaded and looked forward to it each day. I knew it was important for my language development, but holy moly, it was mind-numbing. Thanks to Noemi and Pedro for their patience!

Livit Immersion Center – a wonderful dose of Spanish overload

After two weeks of studying Spanish in an immersion program in Mexico, I realized everyone’s going to ask, “So how’s your Spanish?” Let’s just get it out of the way.

It still sucks.

In fact, my Spanish may actually be worse than it was two weeks ago. I blame information overload. I mean, when I say “immersion,” I am not kidding. From the moment I stood at my bedroom door in the morning (taking deep breaths and giving myself a little pep talk before heading out to breakfast) until the moment I shut off the light and crawled into bed (after butchering the language at the dinner table, wading through my flashcards, and finishing my homework), it was nada but Español. I mean, sure, I would occasionally revert to English in a moment of panic or indulge in a delicious, brief conversation with my Californian house-mate in English to discuss complicated ideas, but generally, it was all Spanish, all the time.

I spent every week day at the Livit Immersion Center, started and run by Scott and Maru. They were both so kind, personable, funny, and soooo helpful.

I absolutely loved their wacky dog, Beluga. During breaks, students hung out in the living room, chatted, or played carpetball, which involved rolling billiard balls down the table to knock off the competitor’s balls.

Here’s our classroom and my teacher, Anna. There were just two other students the first week, and another two joined the second week.

Students from all the classes ate lunch together outside. Meals were fabulous, prepared by Flora, Maru’s mom.

For housing, I was placed with Javier and Anita, who were unbelievably patient. They would smile and nod as I tossed verb tenses to the wind and added random endings to vocabulary words. They generally spoke as if addressing a toddler, which I appreciated. Sometimes Anita got going on a story, and her pace would speed up, and then I lost the plot. But more often than not, they both tried to use “comprehensible input,” as we say in the world of language acquisition.

Here they are with their son, Antonio, and granddaughter, Maria.


The green house was my home away from home. Comfy bedroom, my own bathroom, authentic Mexican meals, and lots of practice speaking Spanish. I threw down my yoga mat on the roof once, but then it rained every other afternoon.

Jacinda, another Livit student, stayed in a room upstairs. She was my security blanket for two weeks, and I often found myself looking to her to fill in the gaps when I had a Spanish brain freeze.

Students spent the afternoons with a one-to-one guide, tootling around town and chatting in Spanish. (I’ll write another post with details about that.) The first day, my guide asked if I knew the way home, and I confidently answered, “Por supuesto!” Not true. I got totally lost … for hours. To my embarrassment, the same thing happened the second day. I had opted not to buy a Mexican SIM card for my phone, so I couldn’t use google maps or other internet-based apps outside of wifi. Eventually, I learned my way around town. These piñata shops were on the corner of my street, so I always felt relieved to see them. (Seems a little creepy to beat the crap out of Disney princesses to get candy, no?)

Just to clarify, I’m not saying I didn’t learn anything. In fact, I learned a LOT. It’s just that I didn’t have time to process what I’ve learned and actually put it in to practice. The classes moved so quickly, and my old brain just couldn’t absorb it like I used to. However, if nothing else, I have a new passion for mastering this #%*@ language. In our years abroad, I’ve studied Turkish, Mandarin, and Lao (not to mention my high school language, German), but all along, I was “saving” Spanish for last. I just had this feeling that Spanish was going to be a breeze, and I would get fluent in no time.

It’s not, and I didn’t. But I haven’t given up.

Regardless of my progress (or lack thereof), I loved this immersion experience, and I absolutely want to do it again. Maybe that’s the most important thing I learned: that I could do it.

Considering how completely shattered – mentally and physically – I was at the end of each day, I’m thinking it would be both powerful and rejuvenating to tack on an immersion experience at the beginning of a travel experience in a Spanish-speaking country (instead of heading straight back to work afterwards). I’m already making plans! More Mexico? Columbia? Ecuador? What’s next?!

Aprender español en México- una patada en los pantalones

One evening in Chile, I was sipping wine while trying to read news stories on the internet in Spanish. As a former journalist, I still feel the need to stay abreast of the news, but I frequently feel clueless about what’s going on in Santiago. Unfortunately, it’s hard to be informed when you have so few resources in English and pathetic Spanish skills. (Even after three years in a Spanish-speaking country!)

During a moment of tipsy frustration, I decided I needed a kick in the pants. I googled immersion Spanish programs around the world and read heaps of reviews. Another glass of wine, and – click – just like that, I was booked for two weeks at the Livit Immersion Center in Puebla, Mexico.

That felt good, so I kind of forgot about it for a few months. When our winter break rolled around last month, I suddenly realized that I was going to Mexico. To study Spanish for two weeks. And live with a Mexican family. By myself.

Holy crap! What had I done?

Departing Florida, I said farewell to Tony and the rest of my family. I took a deep breath and prepared to jump feet first into Spanish.

My casa away from casa is located in east-central Mexico, about two hours by car from Mexico City. My hosts, Javier and Anita, are lovely and patient with my rambling attempts to communicate. They have hosted students for the school for 10 years, so they have this down to a science. Another student, Jacinda, stays upstairs. We’re close to the same age, which is to say, we’re quite a bit older than the other students at the school. It’s nice to have someone else at the table during meals to take some of the pressure off! Speaking of the table, Anita prepares wonderful authentic meals for us for breakfast and dinner (and serves them at gringo hours … whew!).

Here’s our school schedule: Classes every day from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. Mondays, Tuesdays, and Wednesdays, we tour Puebla with a one-to-one language guide in the afternoon. We have excursions on Thursdays and free time on Fridays.

Lunch takes place in the school’s back yard three days a week. The food has been fabulous, prepared by Flora, whose daughter Maru runs the school with her husband, Scott. We all try to speak Spanish as much as possible. Tuesdays, we all go to a restaurant together. Thursdays, we pile into a bus with our sack lunches for an excursion to a nearby attraction.

I am in a class with two guys who are seminary students from Texas, Ryan and Luke. They have been at the language school for six weeks, so their vocabulary is pretty strong. The school focuses on building conversational skills, and our lessons follow a pattern: Our teacher, Anna, passes out words to each of us, and we have try to make the others guess the words. Then we turn in our diario for her to check. (It takes me hours each night to write a one-page diary entry about my day. Sigh…) Next, she uses a list of random questions to promote conversation, focused on a specific grammatical structure. We read a text, do a few worksheets, learn something new (verb tense/pronouns/etc.), and then do a few more worksheets and have another conversation.

So far, it’s been hard. At times, it’s extremely frustrating. However, I feel confident that this is what I need to kickstart my Spanish. Ay carumba!